i don't know how quite to react to this new development with Q and H. It's like she's hanging out with him all the time now, getting to know him as a friend and saying that she likes him vs the picture I had painted of him based on our abortive relationship. B/c SF is such a small city, and we all hang out in the same places, I have seen H more now in the past few months at places like B'hood, Film Festivals, etc and also cause he's been hanging out with Q, then in the past 7 years since we broke up, my single life, then getting married. Frankly, it bugs me. if she wants to hang out with him, fine. I don't want to be there. I feel like a strange third wheel even though there's no reason to. And if I hang out with her, why does she need to hang out with him the entire time? either hang out with me, or with him separately.I don't think that's immature-I think it's setting appropriate boundaries.

oh, and WTF about his sarcastic remarks? WHy is KK not here when you are? Why aren't you wearing a wedding ring at parties? (oh, and why did you notice THAT?) are you still in PH and working for SUDs? (idiot--it's STDs) maybe you need to catch one.

why am i wasting time on this freak-he might be nice and cool and well traveled and whatever but obviously i don't need that extra drama in my life. I have stability and caring and happiness now with KK--this guy should be no more than a blip a bli a bl on my worldview. I am giving Q the info of what I feel and leave it up to her to figure it out.


And I also feel (petty) that she's coopting my friends--sure i invited her to meet my friends but it's her hanging out with them now! i shouldn't feel left out, but I do===should I feel insecure with my friendships with these people bc she's gotten invited to these other events that I won't be at?. no. but the solution is easy--don't invite her to fricking everything!!!!!lameo